I really think the best thing you can do is get him to leave – HE has chosen this not you.
- After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.
- Meet him with a cheerful face.
- Put on clean clothes. Beautify and perfume yourself.
- Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
- Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.
- Beautify and Soften the Voice (for your husband only, it shouldn’t be used in front of non-mahram men).
- Take good care of your body and fitness.
- Bath regularly and, after the monthly period.
- Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.
- Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoo.
- Use the types of perfumes, colours, and clothes that your husband likes.
- Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time. However,avoid excessiveness and, of course,only act as such in front of mahram men and women.
- Hasten for intimacy when husband feels compulsion for it.
- Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
- Be satisfied with what Allah has allotted.
- Remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.
- Do not be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job. Look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah for all that is given to you.
- Do not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
- Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).
- Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
- Be grateful to your husband.
- If you are grateful, your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways.
- If you are ungrateful, your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates? Avoid such situations.
- Always remain loyal to him.
- Compliance to him, particularly in times of calamities in your husband’s body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
- Support him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
- Follow him in all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram). In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
- Try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
- Please him if he is angry.
- If you are mistaken, then apologize.
- If he is mistaken then keep still instead of arguing or yield your right. Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
- If he was angry because of external reasons then keep silent until his anger goes away.
- Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him, etc.
- Do not ask many questions or insist on knowing about what happened, (e.g. you should tell me what happened? … I must know what made you so angry… You are hiding something, and I have the right to know.)
- Protect yourself from any prohibited relationships.
- Keep the secrets of the family, particularly bedroom talks and things that your husband doesn’t like other people to know.
- Take care of the house and children.
- Take care of his money and properties.
- Do not go out of your house without his permission; go out in appropriate dress.
- Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.
- Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place.
- Be good to his parents and relatives. Welcome his guests.
- Avoid problems with his relatives as much as you can.
- Avoid putting him in a position where he has to choose between his mother and his wife.
- Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, etc.
- Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
- Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc..
- Do not follow or create unfounded doubts.
- Jealousy is a sign for wife’s love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc..
- Be patient when you face poverty, strained circumstances and hardships (such as calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, getting fired, etc.
- Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
- Encourage him to pray at night. Listen and recite the Quran individually and with your husband. Remember Allah much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
- Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners (adab) for women.
- Support your husband’s activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
- Keep house clean, decorated and well arranged.
- Prepare tasty and healthy foods.
- Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.
- Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
- Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
- Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.
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12 more memorizing tip
Try to understand what you learn. Things that you understand are memorized 9 times faster.
Learn the most necessary information. You need to set your priorities correctly.
Take this into consideration: things that are at the beginning and at the end are memorized the best (serial position effect).
Switch your attention from one topic to another. Remember that similar memories get mixed (interference theory) and become a “mess.“
Learn opposite things. For example, if you are learning a foreign language, memorize day and night. Opposites are easier to memorize.
Build your own ”mind palace.“ The idea is to associate certain things with a certain place. For example, if you are in your room, try to connect a thing you are learning to something in your room. Repeat it a few times. After that, try to recall what the room looks like in your memory, and repeat the things you learned this way.
Use “nail words.” The point of the technique is to nail one learned thing to another. So when you think of the nail, you automatically recall the other thing.
Associate new words with those you already know. If you are learning a language, you can memorize something new based on what you know.
Make up stories. If you need to memorize a lot of information in some particular order, try to put the pieces into a story. It’s important that the pieces are connected to each other with some kind of plot.
Use a tape recorder. Record the information you are learning, and listen to the recording a few times. This method works best for people who memorize audio information better.
Visualize. Use body language when learning. This will help you trigger your muscle memory.
Choose only the best materials. Don’t use outdated books and methods of learning. Things might have changed a lot since the books were written. Don’t waste your time on something that may turn out to be wrong.