7 Top highlights from “Everyman’s Battle”
by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker:
- Every man struggles with sexual temptation.
This is a normal part of being human. A person can have a stronger than normal sexual appetite and not be a sex addict.
Addictive sex is done in isolation and devoid of relationship. - What is sexual purity?
Sexual purity is a state when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife. - Sexual temptation is a spiritual battle.
It is not just about physical urges. It is also about our minds and hearts.
Our maleness brings us natural vulnerability to sexual sin.
It will surprise some men that marriage doesn’t eliminate sexual impurity.
The battle plan for winning this battle is by bouncing your eyes and starving your eyes from this things that could generate those impure thoughts. - Men should cherish their fountain
Whether your wife is wide or narrow or lumpy or smooth, when you focus your full attention on “Your fountain” she’ll become ever more beautiful to your very eyes. Her weak points will become sexy because they are yours and yours alone. - God’s expectation
Marriage may not satisfy very man’s sexual needs, but God still expects purity.
Purity comes through self discipline and if as a man, you don’t get control before your wedding day, you can’t expect it to crop up after the honeymoon. - Who is a wife?
A wife is someone who gave up her freedom for you, she relinquished her rights to seek happiness elsewhere. She exchanged this freedom for something she considered more valuable: your love and your word.
Your wife risked much and traded much to marry you. - The truth
As a man, there will be women who you will be attracted to and others you will attract other than your wife, it is expected of you not to have any right to romantic relationship with them as a man of honor.
Dr Syeda 